Hallelujah – You’re Home

Last week, I read Sophie’s entry on losing her nan earlier this year. I lost my grandmother on October 25th, 2016. I’m still struggling with it myself. I’ve never really lost anyone before. A great-grandmother when I was a child, but we weren’t close and I was a child. But I’m 24 now, and my grandmother and I were really close.

She died on a Tuesday. I didn’t really know how sick she was until the Friday before. She had been in the hospital for a while, but I thought she’d recover. I thought maybe we could go there around Christmas, so that I could visit her; I hadn’t seen her since May 2015, it’s an 8-hour drive to where they live. Tuesday morning at 8am my mom called me, saying my uncle had called Monday afternoon. Grandma had been asking for my dad, and my uncle said he needed to get down there now. My dad drove all night and arrived early in the morning, right before my mom called me and told me all of this. I lit a candle in the morning. It’s like I knew. Around 5pm my phone rang. I was sure it was my mom, but it was my roommate inviting me to a customers’ night at a hair and beauty salon. It was barely 5 minutes after that that my phone rang again. It was my mom, and I could hear it in her voice when she asked if I was home. And then she said “Now, grandma has died.”

The funeral was on the 4th of November. I went back to the city on the 7th. I had a month and a half before Christmas. And I was just supposed to go back to my life? Like nothing had changed? Like my entire world hadn’t just changed? I couldn’t do it. I still can’t do it. My life isn’t the same. Sometimes I forget that she’s dead, and I think I should call her. And then I remember that I can’t. I don’t even remember the last time I spoke to her. I know I called her a few days before her birthday in February, because I would be abroad on her birthday. There’s a possibility that we talked in the summer while my parents were on vacation, my boyfriend thinks I talked to her while he was here with me. But I don’t remember. And I feel so incredibly guilty, because that means I didn’t call her often enough. How can I forgive myself for something like that?

It’s Easter time of year. I spend Easter with my grandparents many times as a child. Once, we were woken up and ran all around the house looking for Easter eggs – which we ended up finding in our beds. My grandmother had a lot of tiny fluffy yellow chickens around the house. I walked around collecting them in my tiny hand once, they were all so squished they never recovered. It’s Easter, and she’s not here. I couldn’t call her to wish her Happy Easter, I couldn’t catch her up on what’s been happening in my life, and her telling me not much has changed with her. Meaning to hang up at least four times but not doing it because we remembered something else to talk about. I miss my grandmother this Easter.

There are many songs that make me think of my grandmother, too. Some of them don’t even have anything to do with her. This song came out too recently for her to have heard it, but a couple of weeks ago it made me cry on the bus on my way to uni, because it made me think of her. This song, is Supermarked Flowers by Ed Sheeran.

~ Julie

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Feling Like a Failure

The truth is, only about 40% of people in my country finish their master’s degrees on time. That means 60% take extra time. I’m a part of the 60. That’s the majority. 6 to 4 majority. 3 to 2 majority. Two thirds majority. That’s not a failure. It’s common.

Then how come I feel so bad? It’s got to be because I don’t fail things. I don’t do things halfway. I never have. I once found out that I had to write a screenplay for the next day, something we could make a short film out of. My host dad told me I had two options: try like hell, or give up. So I spent the entire evening rewriting a short story I made once into a screenplay. We ended up not using it, because another guy in my group wrote one that was more doable, and we used that, but I was so scared of failing the assignment that I did it anyway. I spent all of Christmas break writing an assignment once, because the research required to do it in addition to the rest of my school work took all of fall semester, and it was due in January.

I don’t do things halfway. Not when it comes to school anyway, because all I’ve been told all my life is that school work is the foundation. I have to get good grades in middle school to get into the program I want for high school. I have to get good grades my first year because I want to go on exchange my second year. I had to get good grades there so that I wouldn’t get sent home. I had to get good grades my senior year to get into the study program I wanted in uni. I had to get good grades on BA level to be accepted into the MA program. I got good grades on all of my course work on MA level, and now I have to get a good grade on my master’s thesis to top it all off, so that I can get a good job that I will enjoy and be good at and deserve. But now, I’m not finishing it in May like planned. Now I’m not getting my degree until December.

But I’m gonna get it. I’m gonna figure out how to write 80 pages. I’m gonna figure out how to analyze my data. I’m gonna figure out how to finish the whole damn thing without suffering from panic attacks and depression and the occasional suicidal thought. I’m gonna do it. I’m not gonna be a failure. I’m gonna be a winner. Slightly delayed, but still a winner. I’m gonna do it.

Unpopular Opinion: Daily Showers

Do you judge people when they say that no, they don’t actually shower daily? If the answer is yes, you should stop. There are many reasons why someone might choose not to shower every day.

People say it’s bad, unhygienic, smelly… but daily showers or daily baths is a fairly recent phenomenon. People didn’t use to wash their hair daily, or shower/bathe daily. I’ve already talked about my decision to only wash my hair twice a week here. But I also don’t shower every day. I shower every two or three days, depending on what I do or if it’s hot or I’m cold or I feel like it. That’s not to say I am unhygienic. I clean myself, like most other people. I just don’t like to use soap and water all over my body. My skin has issues. It gets dry and itchy and patchy, sometimes it resembles fish scales, or I get rashes. Soap and water doesn’t help. Soap makes it worse.

Just like the natural oils your scalp produces is good for your hair, and daily shampooing strips the scalp of these oils causing over-production of oil, the skin all over your body does too. No matter how many creams or ointments you put on your skin, they are outsiders forcing themselves on you, and they cannot replace the natural oils your skin produce. At some point in human history, we went from never washing, to washing often enough to stay clean and healthy and hygienic, to obsessing over showering once or twice or three times a day! I met a girl on a field trip who showered and washed her hair twice a day: in the morning because she’s slept and at night to get rid of dirt and dust. I went to middle school with a girl who said she would shower three or four times a day on days when she had football (soccer) games: in the morning, after gym class, before the game, and after the game.

Over-washing is not good for your health, just like under-washing isn’t good for your health. And most people don’t shower four times a day. Once a day is normal in the world as we know it, and people tend to judge people if they find out they don’t shower every day. Some people might be lazy. Some people might not have time to shower in the morning. Someone might have skin condition necessitating not showering on a daily basis. Most of the time you’re probably surrounded by a lot of people who didn’t shower this morning, or last night, and you don’t even know it. Because most of the time you can’t tell. But once someone says it, it’s somehow “so gross”? Get over yourself.

~ Julie

Tell the people you love that you love them.

I love being horribly straightforward. I love sending reckless text messages (because how reckless can a form of digitized communication be?) and telling people I love them and telling people they are absolutely magical humans and I cannot believe they really exist. I love saying, “Kiss me harder,” and “You’re a good person,” and, “You brighten my day.” I live my life as straight-forward as possible.

Because one day, I might get hit by a bus.

Maybe it’s weird. Maybe it’s scary. Maybe it seems downright impossible to just be—to just let people know you want them, need them, feel like, in this very moment, you will die if you do not see them, hold them, touch them in some way whether its your feet on their thighs on the couch or your tongue in their mouth or your heart in their hands.

But there is nothing more beautiful than being desperate.

And there is nothing more risky than pretending not to care.

We are young and we are human and we are beautiful and we are not as in control as we think we are. We never know who needs us back. We never know the magic that can arise between ourselves and other humans.

We never know when the bus is coming.

~ Rachel C. Lewis

This quote was on my whiteboard for a year and a half. Because it’s such a powerfully strong piece of writing. Which is why I wanted to share it with you. Happy Easter!

~ Julie

My Little Hair Problem

People have a lot of complaints when it comes to hair. Their hair is too short, or too bushy, or too heavy, too thick, too thin… I don’t have any of those issues. Well, sometimes my hair is too thin to do some hairstyles, but hair stylists add clip-in extensions for thickness all the time, so that’s not my main problem. My hair is super straight, and main problem is that my hair is too silky.  It’s too smooth and silk-like. It’s smoother than my satin bed sheets, which is really frustrating.

Have you ever tried braiding hair as silky as mine? I promise, you haven’t. But if you want to try, get out a silk/satin ribbon, and try to braid that. It’s possible, if you braid it tight, but that doesn’t look good when your hair isn’t very thick, so try pulling it apart to add volume. Now that doesn’t work, does it? And if it does, I guarantee you it won’t last for more than a few minutes, an hour, top. That’s my hair.

Some people think it’s gross, but I hardly ever wash my hair more often than twice a week. Tuesdays, usually, because I usually attend a step class, and then either Friday or Saturday, depending on my weekend plans. I’ve trained my hair to not need washing every day, and I use dry shampoo in between, so I think it’s okay. It’s healthier for my hair, and it saves shampoo (I only use salon products) and time. And, when my hair isn’t just washed, I can do stuff with my hair. Like braid it, put it in a bun, or even just a ponytail! I can’t do that when my hair is just washed, because it is too silky. Too silky! Who ever complained about their hair being too smooth? Me. I could stop using conditioner, stop using oil in my hair, but then I’d get split ends and have to cut it off, which is what I’ve been trying not to do for the past three years.

 

What’s the biggest annoyance about your hair? 🙂

~ Julie

My First Bullet Journal 

Hi! Today I wanted to talk about this new project, my new hobby: bullet journaling!

Bullet journaling is basically a homemade planner/calendar book that you tailor to fit your own needs. It can be as simple or as complicated as you want it to be. The goal is to organize your time and mind and become more focused and productive. And also to have fun!

I first heard about this from a friend well over a year ago, but at the time I was perfectly happy with the planner system I’ve been using, which is pre-made and school year based, so they go from June until June the following year. Late last year I started voicing my interest in bullet journaling through, and my friend added me to a couple of Facebook groups. I’ve been scrolling and lurking for a long time, and my plan was to start this summer when my planner runs out. However, with the recent stress of applying for an extension for my thesis and my mental health in general I decided to start early. For a couple of nights now I’ve been working in this Nuuna notebook I found a while ago and fell in love with but never used because I thought it had to be saved for something special. Basically, with this post I wanted to show you my progress so far!

This is the notebook, it’s quite big, about two or three times the thickness of regular Moleskins, but it’s the same thickness as my last two planners so for me it’ll be fine. Isn’t it beautiful?

I made a very simple cover page, using faux calligraphy, on the first page which is always a bit weird in my opinion. I decided to go for a more minimalist style, as I’m not the most artistic person. I like writing, like creating letters, but I’m not much for drawing or doodling or anything like that. I’m adding some color here and there though.

I taped a key card to the inside difference the first page, with my symbols and color codes. A box is just for me (like my to-do lists), a circle involves other people (meetings, girls’ night etc), a check for complete, an arrow for migrated, an x for canceled. Red is school, blue is work, yellow is free time, purple is birthdays, and green is other (I’ve used it to underline holidays for instance). And then there’s my index, which I sat aside two double spreads for. I should probably start writing on every line instead of every other line though…

My future log. It goes from April 2017 until July 2018! I’m just showing you my first and last spread here. I made a calendar on top, followed by a list, and then there’s a section for notes at the bottom. As you can see, I mostly have stuff for this month so far, but because I do get some things months in advance (I’ve known about my work weekend later this month since early February, same with work training next month) I decided to make the spread for over a year into the future. It also lets me note down important birthdays! I could create a separate birthday spread but then I have to make sure I know them all in advance to get them in order (just a pet peeve thing). I made at least one mistake that I need to fix but I don’t have functioning white-out at my parents where I am in writing moment so I’ll do that when I get back to the city!

My next spread is a tracker. I’m currently rewatching Grey’s Anatomy, and I have them on my hard drive, got them from a friend, and it made it hard to keep track of where I am without having to go on imdb, so I made this! All the seasons are across at the top, the episodes go down, black means there’s no more episodes in that season, blue means I’ve watched the episode! Again, I decided to add some air in between the lines, but at the expense of space at the top, which I’m not too happy about, but lesson learned I guess!

This is my favorite spread so far. My blog spread! On the left we have my tracker for scheduled posts, but I learned from my last mistake and put the lines together. I also experimented a little with using different fonts, slightly more successful on this tracker than the last one,  I think.

On the right side is my ideas spread, for when I need to schedule a post but I don’t know what to write about. I kept a list from before, but because I’d done a few and I want to get rid of random lists lying around the place I wrote down the ones I’ve not done yet and I’m gonna keep adding to it if I get an idea but don’t have time to write the entry at that time. Any blog ideas for me? Let me know! 


That’s all I have so far. I haven’t added a habit tracker, because I’ve been doing that for 3 months and I  just feel guilty for all the stuff I don’t do on any specific day, so I’m skipping that for April. I’m going to start my spreads for April soon; they’ll be incomplete but oh well, the only way to start is to start, right?

Anyone else do bullet journaling? 

~ Julie

15 Facts About Me

Today’s post is kind of a lazy one I guess. But anyway. Here are 15 facts about me!

  1. I did an exchange year when I was 17, the 2nd of my 3 years in high school. I went to a place called Lake Stevens, in the state of Washington, in the United States of America. I left on the 19th of July, 2009, and when I came back I left on the 22nd, landed on the 23rd, of June, 2010.
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  2. I took a year off after high school, before I started university.
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  3. During my year off, I went to something called folkehøgskole, it cost me nearly 100.000 Norwegian kroner (largely paid for by student finance) and I studied photography for a year.
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  4. I still love taking pictures; I have a Canon EOS 500D, and three lenses: 18-135mm, 70-300mm, and a 50mm f/2.4 lens.
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  5. I write poetry, sometimes.
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  6. I still have and use the @hotmail.com address that I created at 13!
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  7. I wrote in diaries every day for many years, from my early teens until my early 20s. I started writing less frequently when I started uni, and pretty much stopped about a year and a half ago. I guess I didn’t need to document every aspect of my life anymore, because I found someone I’m gonna share the rest of my life with.
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  8. I studied religions for a year, my 3rd year in uni. We have to choose a one-year study at some point during our bachelor’s degree in my university. I was a bit tired of linguistics and literature at that point, and I chose “the science of religion” because I felt like I didn’t learn enough about the different religions in the world when I was in school.
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  9. I myself am not a religious person, but I find religion fascinating. I especially loved learning about the ancient ones – Norse, Roman, Greek, Persian… And also religions like Hinduism and Buddhism. I think it’s because they’re so different from my culture; my country is mostly Christian, and in school we learned a lot about Christianity, Judaism, and Islam, because they’re so related. I like learning about the ones that are different from these.
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  10. I have about 20 different perfumes, and I use most of them. Some of them are body mists, I wear those a lot on days when I’m just going to uni, wearing everyday or lazy clothes. My most expensive ones are FAME by Lady Gaga and Elle by Yves Saint Laurant, I only wear those for special occasions like dinner parties or when my boyfriend is coming to visit.
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  11. I absolutely love love love owls!
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  12. On July 13th, it’ll be 10 years since the last time I ate meat. It was a Friday, I was in Denmark on vacation with my family. I don’t remember what my last meal as a meat eater was. Probably burgers or hot dogs though, that was pretty much what we ate for dinner that summer.
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  13. I’m an introvert. I’m not good at talking to strangers. If I’m at a table with friends and friends of friends and my friends leave to get a drink, I get incredibly awkward.
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  14. I had long hair until I was 17. Then I had an inverted bob that I kept cutting shorter, and eventually asymmetric, until I was 22. I decided to grow my hair out, and see if I could get it longer AND keep it healthy, because I have a different hair routine now than I did as a teenager. Back then, I washed my hair too often and used cheap products and heat daily. Now, I wash my hair 2-3 times a week, I usually let it air dry, I use salon products and hair oil, and only trim my hair twice a year and it’s still healthy. I cut it last week, hadn’t cut it since late October, and only needed to take off a centimeter!
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  15. I still have a lot of stuff in my room at my parents’ house from when I was a child, and I refuse to remove them. This includes some books (2 sets of Harry Potter books and the Chronicles of Narnia, as well as the Twilight series from when I was a teenager), quite a lot of stuffed animals, and window paintings of the kind that you made on clear plastic and in theory are supposed to be moveable, but they have been there for probably 12-15 years and if I want to remove them I’m gonna need a blowdrier and something to scrape them off with.

 

That’s all for now! Let me know if you want more “lazy” entries like this! I’m also looking for questions to answer, like the 20 Questions Book Tag I did earlier this year, so if you know of any good ones please leave them in the comments! 😀

~ Julie

A Closet Full of Clothes but Nothing to Wear 

Please tell me I’m not the only one who feels this way? Every time I need to get dressed, and by that I mean change out of the sweatpants I should’ve washed three weeks ago and the t-shirt I’ve slept in for days, I open my closet and it’s full of clothes but I have nothing to wear! 

And I think it’s because I have too many clothes. What I like to wear is always in the hamper from the last time I wore it, because I don’t like doing laundry when I have to pay for it, and everything in my closet is just stuff I can’t get rid of. 

So the real question here is, why can’t I get rid of stuff? Some of the things have emotional value, like all my Harry Potter t-shirts; I can’t imagine getting rid of those. But what about the washed out white tank tops? Or the “nicer” tops I never wear but have been given by my mother? It frustrates me that I’m incapable of getting rid of something because I have too much stuff. And in a few months I need to move again, and pack up all this stuff again, and I wish there wasn’t so much stuff, so I need to get rid of some stuff! 

Anyone got any tips on how to get rid of stuff? 

~ Julie

Huawei Honor 8

Hello! Today I am coming to you with my opinion/review of the Huawei Honor 8, after using it for about a month. Basically, I just wanted to write about the pros and cons I’ve found since using it; I’ve tried to keep a running list in my journal that I keep with me everywhere, so that I would have stuff to write about.

So far, there are a lot more pros than cons to this phone in my opinion. Saying that, before this I used an old iPhone 4s, before that an even older Samsung Galaxy S2, and before that a dysfunctional Samsung Galaxy S5 Neo. If you want to read my previous phone entries from earlier this year, they are here and here. So keep in mind the awfulness of these phones and my inevitable comparison to them while you read on!

Pros 

  • The first thing I noticed about this phone is that it downloads really fast. Every app I installed only took seconds to finish!
  • You can use your finger print to unlock this phone, and it’s at the back of it instead of the front like some newer Samsung phones. You can save up to 5 different finger prints, and you turn your finger to save every line of it. It’s therefore not super sensitive when it comes to unlocking it, as long as it is the right finger. I know people with Samsung phones that struggle a lot to open their phones because they have to hold it exactly at the angle they saved it at – that’s not a problem with this phone in my opinion.
  • The fingerprint reader can do all sorts of cool things that you can decide. For example, I set it so that when I push it and hold for a second a screenshot is captured. My brother has the same phone, and he set it so that you can double press it to open an app of your choice.
  • Both the headphone jack and the charger input are at the bottom of the phone. To me this is a huge plus, as I often charge my phone using a power bank on the go while listening to music or audio books, and keeping the phone in my pocket is a lot easier when all the cords come out of the same end of the phone!
  • The phone charger is a USB-C charger, you can plug it in both ways, which I absolutely love! I just wish it was USB-C on the other end as well, where you plug it into the box that goes in the socket… Let’s hope that’s the next step for technology!
  • The phone also charges incredibly fast. 0 to 50% in less than half an hour! As a person who often forgets to charge her phone, or hates putting it on charge when it’s on 60% at night, this is a huge plus.
  • The phone has “do not disturb” mode where you can set the time you don’t want to be disturbed within for weekdays and weekends separately.
  • The screen brightness goes lower on this phone than any other phone I’ve had. I don’t need to install a separate app to turn it down, it just goes incredibly dark when I turn it all the way down. Never get blinded by your phone in the middle of the night ever again!
  • Themes. You can set themes for your phone. I could do this on my S5 Neo as well, but not the others. I think it’s great, it gives you more options when it comes to customizing how your phone looks, more than just setting a background picture.
  • Lastly, this is something I noted on my very first day, and was later told has to do with the latest version of Android, but I’m gonna include it anyway. When you pull down the top bar to see your notifications, they are grouped together, so that all the tweets are together, for example. Furthermore, when it comes to twitter notifications, there’s a show/hide button for each individual tweet, so I can read the whole tweet without having to open it in the app. On older versions of Android I could only read the whole tweet if it was the top notification, which was really annoying.

Pro and con

  • There’s one thing about this phone that is both a pro and a con, and that is the fact that you can have two sim cards or a sim card and a micro SD card. The fact that you can have two sim cards is a pro, if you’re someone who needs two sim cards for any reason. However, you cannot have two sim cards AND a micro SD card, and that is a con, because then you’re stuck with the internal memory of the phone only.

Cons

  • The phone is very slippery. I have quite small hand, and with phone having a 5.2″ screen it’s somewhat big for me, and therefore extra difficult to hold. Especially when my hands are cold, which they so often are!
  • The original keyboard would only let me add emojis in text messages, not on snapchat and twitter and instagram, for example. The autocorrect was also not very good on that keyboard. I quickly switched to SwiftKey, which is great.
  • In my opinion, the “settings” menu is a little bit messy. But I’m getting used to it. It takes some time though as I don’t actually have to go in there so often.
  • When I put in my SD card, I got a pop-up saying that it was outdated and that I needed to get one that’s class 10 or higher but mine is class 10. It’s a few years old though so maybe it registers as a lower class becsude technology had changed. I should get a new one, but it’s not on top of my priorities right now.
  • When I press the button to see all active apps and then close all of them, I tend to not get notifications until I open the app. This is especially true for WhatsApp, but I have a feeling it might be the app itself, not necessarily the phone. But since I don’t know yet, I’m adding it to this list anyway.
  • A couple of times I’ve had to restart the phone to get some of the apps working properly. This is especially true for the music playing app Shuttle, which I use for audiobooks, because it never forgets where in a chapter I left off, while the pre-installed music app on Android phones goes back to the start of the chapter when the app is no longer running. I don’t know if having to restart my phone to get Shuttle working (it skips tracks and won’t play) has to do with the phone or the app though.
  • Lastly, sometimes the touch buttons don’t react for a few seconds. This has happened in a few different apps. I don’t know why it happens, but it does, sometimes.

So that’s it for my review of the Huawei Honor 8! Thank you to All The Jazz for suggesting that I write this post, I hope it was helpful!

~ Julie

How to Take Care of Yourself (After Crying)

I wanted to write an entry on how to take care of yourself if you’ve had the kind of day I’ve been having a few of lately – days that include a lot of crying, no appetite, no willpower to do anything. So let’s just jump into it.

Firstly, if you’ve been crying for a while, or hours, or on and off the whole day, it’s very important to hydrate. Try to fill up a bottle of water and drink that, not all at once, just focus on getting the water down. And then fill it up again so that you have it on hand for when you get thirsty. I can usually feel that my mouth is dry, which I guess is related to having to breathe through my mouth because my nose is all blocked off. Green tea is also a good way to hydrate, if/when you get tired of water. Adding essential oils to your water is also good, especially citrus oils.

Secondly, wash your face. My face gets stiff and sticky from tears, and I like to wash it, remove any makeup that might be left on my face, and apply moisturizer. It helps me feel a little more human.

Thirdly, your nose is probably sore from having to blow it a lot. I like to apply a cream called Mentholatum, it contains menthol which is cooling on the skin, and it helps relieve pain and soreness from all the harsh paper – I am the kind of person that no matter what kind of tissue I use my nose will get sore so I don’t bother spending money on expensive tissue because it doesn’t work for me. The menthol also helps open up the nose; mine tends to be blocked for a long time after I’ve stopped crying.

Brush your hair. Get all those tangles out, and feel a little more alive. The goal here is for us to move forward, yes? And feeling a bit better about yourself, regardless of the situation, helps. I also like to put on a bit of makeup – some concealer, powder, and mascara. It covers up redness without looking overdone, and makes me feel like I look a little bit less of a mess, if nothing else.

Get some fresh air. It feels cooling on the skin – I always feel I get a bit warm when crying. Open your window, or go for a walk, or do both. Moving around can help. If you have a favorite park, go for a walk. Or go visit some shops in town, buy a new book or something else that you want. Buy yourself some flowers and put them in a room – not only do they look (and potentially smell) nice; plants also help with oxygen and stuff.

It’s also important to make sure your body gets the nutrients it needs. You need to eat proper food. That is not to say that comfort food can’t be proper food – earlier this week I ate avocado and tomato on toast for dinner because I didn’t feel like eating but I know that’s something I enjoy and that’s also good for my body. That being said, I did go to the store and bought pick n mix not long after. But, as they say, everything in moderation.

Lastly, I’d like to say that there is no shame in just taking an ibuprofen and going to bed. I often get headaches after crying, and I try not to overdo it on the medication side of things, but my doctor told me there’s no need to be as careful as I’ve been, because it won’t hurt me short term. Sometimes, a painkiller is just what I need to get my body to relax enough to get me a good night’s sleep. Which should not be underestimated! A good night’s sleep is important when it comes to every aspect of life, and factors like the temperature in the room, light noise, scents etc all affect these. It’s still pretty cold in Norway, so I open the vent instead of the window and leave the heating on low, and close my blinds. There’s not much noise around me so I don’t do anything to affect that, except if I’m feeling extremely bad, then I’ll put on Harry Potter on audiobook on my phone and fall asleep to that (I recommend using an app that let’s you set a sleep timer, otherwise it’ll probably wake you up at some point, which isn’t what we want here). As for scents, I like to apply lavender essential oil on my wrists and neck; it’s calming and it smells wonderful. I also have a small tin can of broken up Yankee Candle wax melts in lemon-lavender that I open up and leave on my bedside table before bed (I like to put the lid on whenever I’m not ‘using’ this, otherwise I can’t smell it as much, because I’m smelling it all the time).

So those were my tips for making yourself feel better and taking care of yourself after a round of crying. I hope this is able to help some people, somewhere in the world. If you have any additional tips, please leave them in a comment, I would love to hear!

~ Julie