Timeout From Life

I went home to my parents’ on Friday afternoon, and I was there until this morning. Going there, spending time with my mother, and my father, and a little bit my brother, is kind of like a timeout from life for me. I don’t do uni work when I’m there. I don’t watch the TV shows I’m usually binge watching when I’m in the city. We eat dinner and watch a movie Friday night and I go to sleep; we eat breakfast together on Saturday morning and then  go for a walk, eat some lunch, do some chores, make dinner, and watch some more TV; we eat breakfast together again on Sunday morning, then visit my grandparents, make some dinner, have a nap on the couch from all the life-breaks, eat some dessert, watch some TV, go to bed. And this morning I got up early and my mom drove me down to the ferry and I went straight to uni to try and get some work done before I drag my luggage home to my apartment.

And that’s pretty much my weekend in a nut shell. I don’t suppose anyone would enjoy reading about the food we made or the new curtains we bought and put up or the 6 short stories I’ve read since Thursday night, so I’m keeping this short.

I hope everyone had a good weekend, and that you will have a good week, to, now that we’ve started February!

~ Julie

Ask yourself what you need, and make sure you get it

A couple of weeks ago, I came across a girl online who had posted about coping with anxiety and depression, and she said her therapist had told her, “every day, ask yourself what you need, and make sure you get it”. I thought this was a really good quote.

And I don’t think you need to struggle with a mental illness in order to make use of these words. I think it’s a good mantra, something everyone can do every day in order to improve their quality of life.

Take myself, for example. I don’t struggle much with my mental health, not compared to what I have done in the past anyway, not including the occasional panic attack and ever-present anxiety regarding my thesis, but that’s temporary. I started asking myself what I need several times a day. Yesterday, my needs were warm clothes and coffee. One I sorted out before I left the house, the other I fixed while I was in uni. This morning at 7am I asked myself what I needed, and I didn’t even answer it before I fell asleep and slept for another two hours.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve been a “good girl”. I’ve done what I was expected or supposed to do, always finished homework and assignments on time, did my chores, got up early, never ditched school (apart from that last half of a math class we never talk about)… I was a “good girl”. Which makes me feel bad now, when I’ve reached the year of my life that is supposed to be entirely about my thesis, and I don’t always get up early and I don’t always go to uni, I don’t even work on it every single day! And that makes me feel like I’m not a good girl anymore, because that’s what I’m supposed to do.

But I think that as a human being your number one task is to take care of yourself. If you’re not feeling good and living a good life, you can’t be a good influence on others and you can’t get anything done and you’ll end up walking vicious circles and nothing will ever get any better. So therefore, I encourage you all to take care of yourselves, and to ask yourselves what do YOU need today, and when you have the answer make sure you get it. And make sure others do, too.

I hope you all have a very good day!

~ Julie